I have this exact solution on my Qashqai, but I'm at McDonalds with my son who is all over the place at the moment, can upload some pictures later on how I solved it, if necessary?? (I haven't read all comments thoroughly, so don't know if needed). But I only used 1 relay.
Here's what I did:
I have attached 2 schematics of the wiring. One is of the wiring from the supplier (Sunyee). On the schematics, which are on Danish, it's the one with the word "leverandøren" on it.
To modify it to fit the other schematics with the on-off-on switch you have to modify it at the relay and at the switch that came with.
At the switch you cut it off so you have 3 lose wires. My switch have 3 pins. You then put the wires on as follows: 87 in one end, 85 in the middle, and 86 in the other end.
At the relay you cut the wire going from 86 to the switch and set it to the high beams.
And then you're done